Let's get real,

body image is a chronic struggle for most of us.

This quote "Change the dress to fit your body. Don't change your body to fit the dress," represents that constant inner struggle between figuring out how to love yourself and how not to hate yourself. "Hating" yourself, is when you try to cut corners, find that quick fix, push your limits too far, and treat your body unfairly because of what you want to “look" like in a dress.

However, loving yourself focuses on how you feel, ~~not look.~~

We hear this all the time, “eat healthy, exercise and you’ll lose weight.” Losing weight should not be the only reason WHY you eat healthy and exercise.

You must go deeper than that.

This why people crash and yo-yo diet--They are coming from the wrong energy. It feels like something that they SHOULD be doing, not something that they want to do. Want to know the secret?

...

Living a healthy lifestyle is learning how to LOVE yourself.

...^that's the secret^...

It never matters how much you weigh, what size dress, pants, shirt, shoe, flip flop, whatever it may be, it never matters. What matters is how you good you feel. Loving yourself feels GOOD.

Quick Side-Sesh...

Now, if loving yourself includes indulging once and awhile on a sweet treat, then that is awesome. If something lights you up in life, then I say 'GO FOR IT!' For example, one of my really good friends LOVES cannoli's, they literally light her up like a Christmas tree. Her heart and soul genuinely loves those beautifully crafted and delicious treats. But for me, sweet treats trick me into thinking it is what will bring me happiness. Unfortunately, it's only for that small moment because a few hours later, I never feel good about it. My soul loves whole foods... trying out a quinoa bowl in a local organic juice bar, that lights me up like the North Star on a cloudless night. The comparison is to show you that neither option is right or wrong, it only matters what makes you feel aligned inside.

Back to loving yourself...

If you have that ooo—eee— and you’re making that unsure face because the idea of loving yourself feels uncomfortable, it could be because

there’s a lot of noise out there.

That chatter is probably saying, “people who love themselves are arrogant, conceited, self-absorbed, selfish, egotistical, etc etc.” This is just noise and head junk. From my 28 years of life-experience, and I'm sure you can agree, that some people who fall into a few of those categories, tend to have the highest level of self-hatred and lowest level of self-esteem. As Rebecca Campbell says, "the world needs you lit up," so go, get out there, dive in...

The world gives you permission today to love on yourself.

Sincerely,

your biggest fan

Kelly Dugas

Change the dress to fit your body...

Kelly Dugas

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